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The Challenge When You Lack Self-Confidence

The Challenge of a Lack of Self-Confidence

How confident are you? It’s important to know that self-confidence is valuable. Yet, the truth is that at some point or the other everyone will lack self-confidence. This is especially true when you are faced with something you have never done before or when you are in transition.

Self-Confidence. Desirable, but . . . Some people seem to be born with self-confidence. They exude it, though at times they may falter. On the other hand, there are those who are the opposite and don’t have it. They are filled with self-doubt. Is that you?

Lack Self-Confidence – Check Fear

When you are filled with self-doubt, you hesitate to move forward. You’re reluctant to try new things. When you do advance, you are filled with wonder. You think that there must have been a mistake. Surely, they must not know who you are.

Thus, you are also filled with fear. You are afraid that they will find you out. You are afraid that you will mess up. This goes beyond the healthy dose of fear that keeps you on your toes; keeps you from throwing caution to the winds and acting without wisdom. This is, “I have such a lack of self-confidence that I am afraid and think they do not know the real me.”

Of course, they do know who you are, though not in your entirety. The question then becomes, do you know who you are?

Lack Confidence – Check Self-Knowledge

Not having self-confidence can be an impediment to your progress. Now, when you are surrounded by people who recognize you and are willing to push you forward it is a lesser problem. Nevertheless, that means that you have given up your agency, your power and control.

Moreover, this lack of self-confidence also means that you are lacking in self-awareness and knowledge. The truth? If you suffer from an extreme lack of self-confidence, no amount of pushing will make the difference.

Again, this raises the question, “Do you know who you are?” You see, self-confidence means that you understand who you are, whom God has made you to be and the gifts that God has given you. Thus, you step into your God-given potential and possibility with confidence.

In the following blog posts in this series, we will be looking at how to know when you or someone you know lacks self-confidence, what you can do to boost it. You will find this useful if you lack self-confidence or work with/know someone who does. Moreover, sometimes what we see as self-confidence is really the opposite so look out for the next post, “5 Signs that Your Self-Confidence Needs a Boost.”

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